Solidarity Throughout Pregnancy

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Between the 7th and 9th week of my pregnancy a blood test confirmed that I was pregnant and at this point the embryo is changing in size from a blueberry, to a raspberry (raspbaby), and again to a medium green olive – something actually tangible.

Symptoms include: breast tenderness, fatigue, headaches, dry heaving, nausea, constipation, gas, and bloating.

Development: heartbeat, lips, nose, eyelids, legs, and the head and muscles develop more. (Source: What to Expect When You Are Expecting, 5th Edn.)

Learning about it’s size and development was an important step in making the experience real. It is such a strange thing, transitioning from drinking a glass of wine and coffee on a semi-regular basis and playing competitive sports to instantly changing eating, drinking, and fitness habits.

I noticed right away how much anxiety I was having over the pregnancy because I started to drive well-below the speed limit and sleeping/resting probably more than I needed to. This realization that my life will no longer be the same came as such a surprise. As I watched my husband drink a cold beer, enjoy his morning coffee, go and play basketball with his friends, I started to feel jealous and lonely that I could no longer participate in the lifestyle we shared not too long ago. His life didn’t have to change instantly and he was able to just be excited about the idea of having a baby.                                    Photo Credit: DarnKid

These frustrations coupled with the intense feelings of isolation are scary and can be divisive. It is obvious that it is not his fault in any way for living his life, however, I needed some tools to help me understand how I was feeling about the changes in my lifestyle. I wanted to make sure that when I bring up the topic I don’t sound super hormonal, but it seems like that might be inevitable.

I searched some online blogs and came across a helpful article that identifies 15 Great Ways to Support her During Pregnancy, and the second point suggested,

“She may have given up smoking, stopped drinking alcohol, switched to a healthier diet and started doing more regular exercise. Help her out by making these changes too.”

I think it goes a long way to show your partner support by changing your lifestyle to match how her lifestyle has changed. In my relationship, we both wanted to have a baby and so this showing of solidarity throughout the experience seems like an important piece.

10 Weeks Pregnant

At 10 weeks pregnant the embryo is 1.5 inches – the size of a prune. At this stage it graduates from and embryo to a fetus.  Bones and cartilage are forming (indents for knees and elbows), teeth are forming under the gums, or the stomach begins producing digestive juices, kidneys produce more urine, and the male testes produce progesterone. (Source: What to Expect When You Are Expecting, 5th Edn.) What a busy week of development!

TIP: Here is a tip for anyone who just found out they are pregnant and are beginning to experience symptoms. My friend told me once that when she was pregnant and her husband asked her how she was feeling, she would describe it, as if it were a hangover. So, on a scale of 1-10 where 10 is can’t get out of bed for days hung over, you can relate how you are feeling in a way that might make some sense (food averse, gas, bloating, indigestion, nausea, etc.).

Thanks for reading!

5 thoughts on “Solidarity Throughout Pregnancy

  1. Congratulations! The wonderment of growing a baby is exhilarating, and at times, confounding in my experience. As I have been reading in your posts it appears that you are finding this as well! 🙂 Your feelings are perfectly natural, as I am sure you have been learning. 😉 I am curious about your experience with well meaning advice and birth stories from people both online and in person?

    I notice that you are referencing What to Expect When you are Expecting. Have you seen the weekly videos of your baby’s growth? I found it quite interesting. I will try to embed the code for the video here:


    This is the first time trying to embed a code for a video, so if it didn’t work you can also click here to watch your baby’s growth at week 10.

    I wish you well and am looking forward to reading more about your journey!

    P.S. The movie What to Expect When You are Expecting is quite humorous and although can be viewed as an exaggerated pregnancy experience, I found I could relate. My favorite was the pregnancy unicorn!


  2. Hi Steffany,

    What an interesting post, As women, I see a need and I also learned a lot of things for your post, I am recently married, it’s been over a year now and your post will help me a lot going forward.I liked your tip and look forward to few more.


  3. Hey Stef!

    Thanks for being so honest about your journey. I think that your feelings are very common and, I must say, that I remember many times that I felt jealous of my partner’s freedom. Particularly when it came to breastfeeding. This is not to say that we would trade it for anything in the world but, in fact, it is that pull that makes it quite the adjustment.
    On another note, I saw this study and thought of you.
    Check it out and see if it is something you may be interested in participating in 🙂



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