Solidarity Throughout Pregnancy

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Between the 7th and 9th week of my pregnancy a blood test confirmed that I was pregnant and at this point the embryo is changing in size from a blueberry, to a raspberry (raspbaby), and again to a medium green olive – something actually tangible.

Symptoms include: breast tenderness, fatigue, headaches, dry heaving, nausea, constipation, gas, and bloating.

Development: heartbeat, lips, nose, eyelids, legs, and the head and muscles develop more. (Source: What to Expect When You Are Expecting, 5th Edn.)

Learning about it’s size and development was an important step in making the experience real. It is such a strange thing, transitioning from drinking a glass of wine and coffee on a semi-regular basis and playing competitive sports to instantly changing eating, drinking, and fitness habits.

I noticed right away how much anxiety I was having over the pregnancy because I started to drive well-below the speed limit and sleeping/resting probably more than I needed to. This realization that my life will no longer be the same came as such a surprise. As I watched my husband drink a cold beer, enjoy his morning coffee, go and play basketball with his friends, I started to feel jealous and lonely that I could no longer participate in the lifestyle we shared not too long ago. His life didn’t have to change instantly and he was able to just be excited about the idea of having a baby.                                    Photo Credit: DarnKid

These frustrations coupled with the intense feelings of isolation are scary and can be divisive. It is obvious that it is not his fault in any way for living his life, however, I needed some tools to help me understand how I was feeling about the changes in my lifestyle. I wanted to make sure that when I bring up the topic I don’t sound super hormonal, but it seems like that might be inevitable.

I searched some online blogs and came across a helpful article that identifies 15 Great Ways to Support her During Pregnancy, and the second point suggested,

“She may have given up smoking, stopped drinking alcohol, switched to a healthier diet and started doing more regular exercise. Help her out by making these changes too.”

I think it goes a long way to show your partner support by changing your lifestyle to match how her lifestyle has changed. In my relationship, we both wanted to have a baby and so this showing of solidarity throughout the experience seems like an important piece.

10 Weeks Pregnant

At 10 weeks pregnant the embryo is 1.5 inches – the size of a prune. At this stage it graduates from and embryo to a fetus.  Bones and cartilage are forming (indents for knees and elbows), teeth are forming under the gums, or the stomach begins producing digestive juices, kidneys produce more urine, and the male testes produce progesterone. (Source: What to Expect When You Are Expecting, 5th Edn.) What a busy week of development!

TIP: Here is a tip for anyone who just found out they are pregnant and are beginning to experience symptoms. My friend told me once that when she was pregnant and her husband asked her how she was feeling, she would describe it, as if it were a hangover. So, on a scale of 1-10 where 10 is can’t get out of bed for days hung over, you can relate how you are feeling in a way that might make some sense (food averse, gas, bloating, indigestion, nausea, etc.).

Thanks for reading!
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